Confessions of Faith: Breaking Soul Ties

Guest Blogger: Faith Simone  (@FaithSimone2011) 

I’m about to go in on a touchy subject, soul ties. And I’ve gotta say, I’m not too comfortable with it.

But I’ve been around long enough to know that when I’m afraid to speak, the words I have to say will have the most impact for someone. So I speak them anyway.

I do it because I know that someone needs to hear these words, feel them, and tuck them away right next to their own quiet shame or sour bitterness or red-hot rage. Until they’re ready to let it all go, walk into the cool calm waters of acceptance, and float on the weightless glory of forgiveness.

What’s The Price of a Soul Tie?

I’m talking to church folk on this one. Backsliders in general, women with emotional baggage in particular. Soul ties is a phrase tossed around in pulpits, written in the pages of books clutched desperately by those seeking answers…and those seeking deliverance.

• But what does it really mean?
• What does it really cost?
• What’s the price for a soul tie and how can a sista’ get a refund?

Because if you’ve ever been caught up in a spiritual tug of war, you’re going to want everything you sacrificed for that war back. With interest.

I Vowed To Follow Someone…

I’ve been there. It’s embarrassing to admit how easily I allowed my soul to be knit together with someone who hadn’t earned the right to share its space. I cringe when I think of how I vowed to follow someone without even thinking of where they were heading. Without any consideration of my own path, my own divinely given directions.

At the time, all I cared about was being with him. Which wouldn’t have been a totally bad thing, if being with him brought me closer to Him.

That’s where the war began.

The Unseen Battle

Unseen battles between God’s spirit, my own selfish will, and the constant confusion of a man who wasn’t privy to the fact that he had claimed a woman who belonged to Someone else. By the time we both figured out that what we had wasn’t what either of us wanted, the damage was done.

We both had battle scars.

Mine came in the form of bitterness, loss of self-esteem, anger so white-hot that I scared myself at times. His…well, his aren’t for me to tell. 

What I can tell you is how I made it through.

How I Made It Through

I can tell you how I’ve gotten to the place where I can smile to myself when no one’s watching; how I plucked out bitterness, taking note of its nasty deep roots; how I reclaimed my self-esteem; how I decided that anger had over stayed its welcome.

I re-tied my soul to God.

Oh, it didn’t happen overnight. I cut a fool, y’all.

I sucked my teeth and cut my eyes at Him. Raged at Him and questioned Him. Blamed Him and him and me. Humbled myself before Him. Repented to Him. Whispered to Him with tears in my eyes; asked for a new heart and another chance. Bathed in the affirmations of His holy word.

Messed up, went back, and repeated the whole process all over again.

God is Faithful, Even When We Aren’t

It’s like that sometimes. But you know what I discovered? He’s faithful, even when we aren’t. So if you’re struggling with a soul tie and think you can’t make a come back, think again.

“Know therefore that the LORD your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.” Deuteronomy 7:9 NIV

He’s in covenant with you.

Knowing Your Worth

A covenant of love to a thousand generations. That’s worth working to keep His commandments. That’s worth pursuing. That’s worth sacrificing for. You’re worth more. You’re worth a holy covenant and a man who has to seek God’s approval to claim you.

• You’re worth the wait.
• You’re worth the pursuit.
• You’re worth the effort.

If you’re reading this and don’t quite believe it, ask God to show you.

I promise He’ll blow your mind. He’ll let you see yourself through His eyes, and when that happens you can’t help but to expect better. Demand better. Be better. Which means when the right one comes along, or if he never comes along, you’re alright. Because you’ve got it, the real thing.

The best thing: knowledge of God’s amazing love for you.

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Note from the other Simone: I’m SO grateful Faith stopped by to share with to us. She is one of my best online writer friends. In her book, When The Real Thing Comes Along, we see the effect of soul ties on Jacelynn…who battles unresolved hurt. Things get crazy when Jacelynn’s past interrupts the present, and she has to learn to reconcile herself to Christ alone.

Faith Simone is a poet, playwright and novelist. She is also an active blogger, sharing her personal thoughts, book reviews and tips for writers on her website FaithSimone.com.  She is passionate about using her gift of writing as a tool to help promote humanity, understanding and compassion.

Faith Simone will be with us to talk about her book and soul ties via conference call on Tuesday, October 27th . If you’re a subscriber you’ll automatically get the details in your inbox. If not, subscribe AND get our free guide.